Musings from a Coach #4
The Gentle Art of Swedish Death Cleaning: A Mindful Path Toward Less
For the last year, I’ve been embracing the minimalist approach after discovering the Scandinavian concept known as Swedish death cleaning. Though its name might sound grim, Swedish death cleaning (or döstädning in Swedish) is less about dying and more about living intentionally. It encourages people, typically those over 50, to slowly and thoughtfully reduce their possessions, easing the burden on loved ones after they’re gone.
What Is Swedish Death Cleaning?
The concept was popularised by Margareta Magnusson, a Swedish artist and author of “The Gentle Art of Swedish Death Cleaning: How to Free Yourself and Your Family from a Lifetime of Clutter.” In the book, Magnusson, who describes herself as being “somewhere between 80 and 100”, offers personal stories and practical tips for letting go of excess.
At its core, Swedish death cleaning is not a one-time purge but a process. Unlike the rapid decluttering encouraged by other trends, this method is gradual and thoughtful. It asks people to evaluate their possessions not only for their usefulness or joy, but for the legacy they leave behind.
“It’s not sad. It’s about a dialogue with loved ones and a chance to take stock of your life.” writes Magnusson.
Why Embrace It?
1. Reduces Burden on Family
One of the main benefits of döstädning is its empathy. It spares relatives from having to sort through decades of belongings in the midst of grief- a task that can be emotionally and logistically overwhelming.
2. Fosters Reflection
Death cleaning isn’t just about sorting through objects; it’s about looking at the life those objects represent. What did we value? What memories are worth preserving?
3. Promotes a Simpler Lifestyle
The process often leads to a more peaceful, uncluttered home, which studies have shown can reduce stress and improve mental well-being.
4. Encourages Conversations
Swedish death cleaning opens the door to conversations about mortality and legacy -topics that most of us might shy away from, but that can be enriching and healing.
Critics and Counterpoints
While many praise the philosophy, not everyone agrees with its implications or methods.
1. Too Morbid for Some
Critics argue that focusing on death, even obliquely, can cast a shadow over everyday life. In cultures that avoid talking about mortality, the very name “death cleaning” can be unsettling.
2. May Devalue Sentimental Items
Not all things need to be “useful” or spark joy to have worth. Some argue that death cleaning may inadvertently encourage people to part with deeply sentimental items they might regret losing.
3. Not Universally Practical
The method assumes a certain level of stability, health, and time that not everyone enjoys. People with disabilities, chronic illnesses or unstable living situations may find it unrealistic or emotionally taxing.
4. May Reinforce Control Beyond Life
Some critics suggest that death cleaning can reflect a desire to control one’s narrative or legacy even after death- potentially overriding the natural process of grieving and remembering by loved ones.
Death Cleaning in Context
It’s worth noting that the impulse to prepare one’s belongings before death is not uniquely Swedish. In Japan, danshari promotes similar principles of letting go. In Norway, the practice is known as dødsrydding. Many indigenous traditions also emphasise cleaning and organising before death as a final act of respect.
Still, Swedish death cleaning’s emphasis on gentleness and dialogue makes it distinct. It’s less about austerity and more about care – for oneself, for one’s things and for those who remain.
Final Thoughts
Swedish death cleaning may not be for everyone and that’s okay. What it offers, however, is a thoughtful invitation: to reflect on our lives through our things, to declutter with purpose, and to care for our loved ones in a deeply personal way.
As Magnusson reminds us, “Life will become more pleasant and comfortable if we get rid of some of the abundance.” Whether you embrace it in full or adapt it to your needs, the gentle art of Swedish death cleaning is, at its heart, about living with grace, and leaving with kindness.
Sources
- Magnusson, Margareta.The Gentle Art of Swedish Death Cleaning. Scribner, 2018.
- Nylander, Johanna. “Why Swedish Death Cleaning Is a Gift to Loved Ones.”The Local Sweden, 2020.
- Kondo, Marie.The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up. Ten Speed Press, 2014.
- New York Times. “Swedish Death Cleaning Is the New Decluttering Trend.” 2018.
